One thing I like about New Year is the possibility of trying new things and being better than I was last year.
I must admit though that I’ve never been one for New Year Resolutions as I feel that for the majority of the time they are ill made and are said just for the sake of saying them. Most are really meaningless and end up being broken. Instead, I like to use the month of January as a time for reflection and planning, allowing me the valuable time to sit and ponder on what I want my life to be like in 1 year, 2 years and 5 years. I’m also not afraid to admit that sometimes my plans haven’t worked out and I’ve had to revise them as circumstances dictate, after all we can’t legislate for everything that may come our way, but we need to be resilient and flexible enough to re-evaluate and re-write our plans, so we can achieve something. We also have to believe in ourselves and want to make a positive change.
With everything in life, it can be unpredictable but planning and setting goals is a great way to achieve something. It might be a small thing in the eyes of another, however for us, it might be a massive step forward in our self-development and achievement. I do believe however, for women it can be tough and I don’t say that in a patronizing way, far from it. Women can achieve just as much as their male counterparts but we are wired slightly differently than men.
Have you ever walked into a room at home and thought – “what a mess!” yet your male partner hasn’t even noticed that the carpet is covered in dirt from the kids shoes, there are toys scattered all around and there is the ubiquitous items of clothing just waiting to be picked up an put in the laundry basket? A woman will HAVE to clean up, yet come back a week later and the house will be just the same, if left to the men. There are some exceptions to the rule however, but in general this is what I’ve found from my years of conversations with my female family members, friends and patients.
What we need to do is start to take time out for us. Everyone has the right to an hour a day that is YOU time. This time needs to be non-negotiable after all you are definitely worth it. Usually if Mum goes down, the whole house suffers, so it’s important that this time is used for us to do something we enjoy doing. It could be going for a walk in the outdoors, joining an exercise or dance class, meditating, having a massage, relaxing in a warm bath, taking wildlife photographs, crafting a photo album or greetings cards – it doesn’t matter what it is so long as it’s something for YOU, so you can de-stress and unwind from the everyday hulabaloo!
Why not plan just 1 hour a day of something you enjoy and want to do in 2020, write it in a journal, note book or diary and try to stick to it so you can begin to plan a new year and a new you. Once you’ve got the hang of things, you can begin to think of some goals you’d like to set for the next 6 months and 12 months and plan those in too. Just remember, we are worth every bit of the investment in ourselves and we shouldn’t feel guilty. Just one hour a day can make all the difference and over time you can achieve so much more than if you don’t. Just changing 1 thing at a time can lead to a lifestyle change which benefits your body, mind and soul – after all we are human too with our own needs and wants ☺